Quote from a very smart friend of mine

"I want my opinions to be respected and my voice to be heard. So, I try to respect others opinions even if they differ from my own. I can agree to disagree and just accept that our opinions don't match and that my truth is different than others. That does not mean I have to argue with them about it or even discuss it unless I want to. It also does not mean I am right and they are wrong or vice versa. It just is what it is OPINION. Thats what detachment is to me. I have also found in my relationship with my husband that he tends to give advice when I am only looking for him to listen. When he does this I tell him I only wanted him to listen and was not looking for advice. I don't have to be nasty about it. But since I have been telling him I don't want advice unless I ask for it he does not try to give it as much. So it is obvious to me that sometimes people think I want advice when I really don't. Was I expecting him to read my mind? Do others think they can read my mind? Maybe. But I can more clearly communicate now. I can say I need to get this off my chest can you just listen? I can say I know your intentions are good but I really don't want/need advice"